There is no doubt the Internet has made the world a smaller place. Finding love beyond the borders of small town anywhere is as easy as pulling your credit card from your wallet. Finding love in Thailand is no different.
Talk to any man that has been to Thailand, and within the first few words from his mouth is at least one comment on the women and how stunningly attractive they are. The 1 – 10 scale men have in their heads on how they rate a woman on how attractive she is, a 10 rating on a women from the west may come in only a 5 when compared to Thai women. Add to that the vast majority of Thai women don’t have the attitude problem western women seem to have been born with. With all that to consider, there is a complete reset that happens inside the first few days. What was attractive back home in the west now becomes mediocre.
The reason Connecting the Dots is writing this is very simply to help people past what is assumed, and get people back on the right path. It is entirely too easy to misjudge a Thai lady who is genuinely looking for love, with a woman who may be working in the Naughty Nightlife. Mistakes happen on both sides when it comes to finding love. The term looking for love in the wrong places most definitely applies.
For the person that has never been to Thailand, if there is anything that he as heard is the women are beautiful and sex is plentiful in Thailand. Of this there is no denial. Perhaps when the Chinese came up with they saying “For every ten men that go to Thailand, eleven want to stay.” beautiful women and sex is what they had in mind. Sex is a big part of Thai culture, and the naughty nightlife is just the tip. When a man has more than one women under his wing, in the west it would be scandalous, however in Thailand it is bragging rights.
If you are looking for love, then the first bit of advise is stay away from the girls that work in the nightlife. A girl that is looking for love may mistakenly look for love there, but if she does, there is a bit of a reputation assumed or genuine that will forever follow her. If she has just started then there is a chance she will not have changed. But the change is fast in most cases a month is all it takes. Once she has her hand wrapped around a wad of 1000 Baht notes for the first time knowing it is hers, it is often the last push that sets her into the nightlife.
The problem is both the good girls and the naughty girls use the same services. Knowing who is who is the trick. There are plenty of do it yourself ways to help identify on line what the girl is like, and we will cover that as this series continues. We will help you to identify potential red flags, and when it is generally OK to throttle up.